“Judge a man not by the color of his skin, but by the content of his character.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
I have a variation of this quote tattooed on my right shoulder — it’s one of my favorites! Growing up, you start to realize what makes you different from others is not just skin deep. Obviously I have an all year tan that I now love, but when I was younger I didn’t always feel that way; I didn’t feel, pretty. I wanted the long blonde/brown hair, blue eyes, pale skin like all of my friends had and I didn’t realize at the time what made me unique and special. When people would hear my soft high pitched voice on the phone, they naturally assumed I had that blonde hair, blue eyes look because of the way my voice sounded. When seeing me in person, their demeanor would change because I was not what they had expected. Others would try to convince me I was a different ethnicity because of how I dressed, how my hair was, if I had my nose ring in or just how I looked.
It was at that time I decided to get my tattoo, “Judge me not for the color of my skin, but by the content of my character.” I got this because it gave me a sense of power over my own skin. I wanted people to take ME as a person seriously, not look at me and discount/assume things about me just because of how I looked. I wanted what I said and my thoughts to matter and getting this tattoo gave me the power to believe in myself again. Some people, even family members, didn’t understand why I got this tattoo. They told me, “Why would you even do that? We live in a different time now; you’re being stupid for getting that.” Each to their own, but those people didn’t have to take in the looks or comments people felt they could judge me.
Over the last few years, I’ve grown a lot as a person on the inside and out. I am more confident in myself, what I think, how I’m perceived in my appearance and I could not be happier. I feel as though what I say matters and people listen to me now because I believe more in myself and am happy to be me; I couldn’t say that before! Getting that tattoo gave me the power to really embrace all the great things that make me who I am, and finally, at that stage in life start believing in myself. I felt it was time to share my thoughts and aspirations with the world and not just let people assume things about me because of the color of my skin.
I’m not saying that you all should go get a tattoo to make yourself feel better, unless that’s what you want to do, be my guests! I do love me a good tattoo that has a deep meaning to the person lol. I just want you to be able to look beyond what others see you as and take a moment to see yourself; the true you. I want you to make sure you’re happy with who you are today. Make sure your actions and thoughts are clear and you’re being heard. I want you to be comfortable and confident in your own skin and don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise. YOU deserve to feel special, smart, kind and beautiful because you are. No one can take that away from you unless you let them.
Learn to love what you see ~